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Balance, An Overrated Pipe Dream
Balance has been such a popular subject in the last five years that it's almost become passé. But that hasn't stopped many of us from continuing to pursue it.
The world has gotten smaller as it's gone more global, and the pressure to do more, faster, with fewer resources hasn't abated. Most people are juggling the demands of two-income households while trying to keep current with all the chores, tasks, details, and information necessary to make informed and wise decisions, not to mention time for family, hobbies, volunteer activities, exercise, socializing, self-improvement ... the list seems endless! And overwhelming.
We seek balance because we're stressed. We gravitate toward balance when our activities are not closely enough aligned with our values, or are too taxing to be healthy over the long haul.
But trying to find perfect balance is a pipe dream and wasted effort.
There seems to be more pressure to be successful – in the cultural sense – than ever before. While doing the job of two or three people at work, we're expected to be exemplary parents, AND also have a life in which we actively enjoy our avocations and hobbies, take superb care of our bodies, spirits and minds. If you think balance needs to be a daily practice, think again. While it's a wonderful goal, it's not realistic for most folks. Balance becomes another to-do on an ever expanding and guilt-inducing list.
What if the balance we're looking for in our lives was more like the balance that nutritionists suggest as a diet? For instance, we don't need to eat all the proper numbers of servings from the five food groups each and every day, but if we get a good balance over a month, that's still quite healthy.
Translating that to the bigger picture, that might mean that there are times when we need to work more than usual, and other times when we can take more time off; times when we focus more intently on our hobbies and passions, and other times when they go a bit neglected because there are other current important priorities. There may be times when we take really good care of ourselves, and other times when that slips a bit; times where we devote a lot of attention to our family, and other times when there is less energy and daily time to focus on them. And that's OK – it is as it needs to be.
The aim of balance is to live a well-rounded life, and to renew and refresh your productive and creative energies on a regular basis so you can contribute to the best of your potential. Here are some useful tips to help you achieve a realistic balance:
1. Get Mindless. The other side of work isn't only family time, it also includes activities that rejuvenate you, whether that's spa time or a simple hot bath, sports, meditation, fishing, taking a walk, sitting in your yard and watching the birds in the trees or the clouds in the sky. This "mindless" time is critical to restoring your mental prowess, as well as your physical stamina. It also creates space for spontaneous creativity and problem solving. Don't force it, though. The aim is to relax and enjoy fully.
2. Employ your calendar. Remember to schedule those activities into your calendar for specific days and times. If you need to contact others to set things up, schedule that into your calendar, too. Seeing the activity in your calendar engenders more of an emotional commitment to it, and it sets aside time for it, automatically making it more of a priority.
3. Reduce family performance stress. Quality time with your loved ones needn't be complex or difficult to pull off. You don't need to schedule special activities or spend a bunch of money to spend rewarding, memorable moments with your family and friends. Unstructured time and spontaneous activities are often more fun and are remembered longer. Some ideas include going for a bike ride, sharing an interesting craft project, baking or cooking a meal, going for a hike in a local park, or taking a car ride...
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